The Underlying Issue Behind Repeating Patterns/Triggers

What's been coming up for even for myself (we've worked on it before), why am I getting triggered again by this same thing? It can be anything from a co-worker relationship that's triggering you, where you're not feeling appreciated, it can be where you're in a legal battle with somebody, and there's, you know, money, financials, etc, being played out, or sort of simple as I can't do things, right. You know, like, you're when you're really critical or self critical of yourself, and you feel what you're doing isn't perfect enough, or it's not good enough.

So many of these stories that have been coming up for people are ones that I've worked on with these people before. We've addressed them from many, many different angles, and it clears and all of a sudden, they're starting to show up again. What was becoming really clear is there was an element of shame at the base of them. The shame had never been addressed, identified or looked at. So there can be shame and even feeling like you've lost money, or that you've even put yourself in a situation where you're battling for your money. There can be shame in the self criticism aspect, where maybe as a child, you were given a type of parenting, where you got a B, that's great, but why didn't you get an A? So there can be that kind of programming that gets put in, needing to always do better, and you're never good enough.

There can be some shame in that, because you feel like I'm not good enough. So it's been showing up a lot. It's showing up in so many different ways, like, you know, starting to talk to someone about their relationship with their mother and the next thing you know, the shame is coming up of how the body was changing during during puberty. This is coming up for both men and women, because so many religions, Christianity and so many other religions make us feel dirty about certain parts of our body or the whole as things change, right?

Just take a look at that. Take a look if there's anything along those lines coming up for you, even just some of the self sabotage behaviours or the patterns that we still have that we haven't (that we know) asking ourselves, why am I still doing this? Or why do I still have some of the judgment when I'm being lazy around this, different things like that, and start to break it down to see if there's any element of shame underneath at all. I noticed once we dealt with the shame, (because the shame is the lowest frequency that a human can experience) sometimes you don't even want to admit that you have this kind of issue, even if it might be a really simple, normal kind of issue to have. Once we dealt with the shame, it really felt like it finally just released. Okay, and really let go. So, take a look at that.

It seems like, as the energies keep bumping us up more and more, we're dealing with so many levels of patterns and programs. Now we're getting to a place where we're able to deal with these programs at a very core base level, which is fantastic, right? It's very, very exciting.

In terms of some of the physical symptoms, people have been having some of the period stuff, there can be a lot of shame around that, especially as a young girl when you're going through that, your mom might be projecting something on you. Somebody was talking about how they didn't want to be a girl, and when the period started, they had to finally deal with the fact that they were a girl because boys were more valued in their home, you know, so they had been a tomboy, all their life. So there'd been shame and that in losing the battle of pretending to be a boy kind of thing, just as an example.

So with this shame, you want to do that work where you're sitting with the shame, right? Whatever is coming up, you hold space for the shame, you don't become it like you don't go into that version of you. Say you were 12, and you felt frustration and disappointment and you know, those hot tears that can come from little children, when they're confused, and they don't have anyone to turn to. So you don't want to become that version of you. You want to now hold space and be a witness for that version of you. Okay? That version never got the attention that was needed. The shame was never addressed the people in your life who were your primary caregivers or guidance counselor, kind of people in your life. Parents, sisters, siblings. So now you want to be the person that's now holding space and giving that shame or whatever emotion it is, and just hold space for it. You stay focused on it. I call it still pointing. It's a big technique I use in sessions. Then what happens is it it literally neutralizes and dissolves on its own.